Relationships are a great deal of work and requires much effort in building. However, there are those individuals who make that work seem a gazillion times harder. Yep…cheaters! You are always suspecting them, but they have a way of reassuring you that you are imagining all your suspicions. Not anymore. Unluckily for them, Borlem picked up some red flags that sell them off and reveal to you 5 most common traits found in cheaters.
The following is an overview of 5 common traits of cheaters.
It sounds a little bit contradictory to their nature but cheaters are really insecure. It goes a deeper to their past probably because of the pain they have carried for some time, internalize it and finally spread it to their partners. They may be highly attractive with an array of other traits that are quite appealing but because of this insecurity they may act out because they feel they do not deserve you and are sure down the line that you will soon leave them. So what does this lead to? Self-destruction. Cheating to them is a way to feel avoid and ensure that they are never alone. So be careful guys.
They’re Highly Attractive
It is no news that physical attraction is the top way cheaters maintain an endless stream of victims. Studies show that women are more susceptible to this than men as they are more likely to cheat based on physical attraction. For a cheater, their attraction is their greatest asset. If you’ve heard of the saying, ‘Forbidden fruits taste sweetest’, you will throw that out of the window once you see them and actually believe they are worth taking the risk for. So…beware. To be forewarned is to be foretold.
They’re Overly Flirtatious
Flirting precedes dating and we all except that once we agree to take things seriously, flirting kind of stops. But not for the cheater. No matter how much they hide it, they will display overly flirtatious behaviors at some point in the relationship. The root source of this is jealousy, insecurity and the need for attention. Worse still, they’ll flirt in front of their partners and take it as harmless fun. And when certain people tend to see that in a person, they know that sociopathic tendencies are not too far away. If you think their behavior will improve when you are away, then you my friend have been deceived.
They’re Excessively Needy
Cheaters want your time, money, attention, energy, affection or a combination of these in excess. You don’t give it to them, they act out to get it. By act out I mean they use manipulation tactics to get what they want. Sorry to break it to you, but however much you do for this person, they will never be satisfied and you will find out they cheated on you sooner or later. When you ask them the reason for their behavior, they’ll blame you for not doing certain things.
They Idolize A Cheating Lifestyle
There are shows out there that are not really good for couples that are trying to have a stable relationship. Some of us are smart enough to pick that up from a mile away, but a cheater…nah. For them, this is like music to their ears. With all the reality shows on TV, you will notice how they seem to support the cheating partner. They will take it a notch higher and instead of working things out in a relationship when things get tough, they will go hang out with a person they feel comfortable with, who they should not be hanging out with